Cap of Peace

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Saturday, February 22, 2014

BZZZZING cellphone rings from your demanding boss...b-r-r-r bristling family member is shouting to grab your attention... bursting words of criticism and putdown from your angry friend in a public canteen.

Yes. Pinning our nerves with worry, punching our guts with anxiety and pushing our spirits to the edge of panic, you and I can feel disempowered.

These stressful and shameful events are like red hot lava coals twisting our heart with hurt and embarrassment…


Whew. How can we face them?

Seeking a respite, I looked on my own experiences for answers. Moreover, friends shared their advices. Thus, these are the three anti-stressor hats I recommend you and I can wear daily.

First, put on the cap of patience.

Find a way to see potentially frustrating situations as opportunities to develop endurance.

Do you encounter a huge line at the grocery checkout counter? Before you start grumbling, say this to yourself, "This is an opportunity to become calmer. Let's see how patient I can be."

Every time you get into your car to drive somewhere, pause before you turn the key, tell yourself, "This will be an exercise in patience." If there is a lot of traffic, and you have to wait for long periods of time, try to enjoy the peace of a slower pace.

Make patience a priority. Frustration occurs when we aren't getting our way, or we feel something is going wrong. Breathe in and out slowly. Change your focus and choose to write the code of patience and peace.

Second, be kind to yourself.

Forgive yourself for your weaknesses and frailties. Life is full of frustrations. Maybe your friend or relative is neurotic and needs emotional healing.

In these turning and turbulent moments I look up to the blue sky and utter this calming prayer.

"Lord, I offer myself to you. My strengths as well as my sorrows and my joys as well as my trials. Every day and in every way, I am a person-in-progress. Walking on the hill of challenges, I struggle to be a kind, benevolent and altruistic person.

Lord, I clasp my hands together to ask for forgiveness. Lord forgive also my neighbor and enlighten her mind and heart. Amen."

Third, try the sunhat of counseling.

If anger has become your daily companion. Maybe your red cheeks have been puffing with irritation for the last six months or more, I advise this. Seek psychological support. Consult a professional counselor. Maybe your hurt stems from your childhood trauma or past issues of abandonment. Let a counselor help you in your life’s journey.
You may call this help team. Call them at 02 4360710 (Quezon city).

Be courageous in looking at your stressor straight in the eyes and voice out this affirmation.


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Published in the Sun.Star Pampanga newspaper on February 23, 2014.


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