Pre-setting our wants

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By Gingging Avellanosa-Valle

Bahin sang Bubay

Monday, March 30, 2015

Motivation is part and parcel of our individual growth it would seem, because without it, as it is said, the need to carry on life from birth to adulthood would be a struggle. Thus, even when we were still in the womb, our human nature need to coax us to grow and be whole to survive each and every step along the way.

My father jokingly told my husband before when I was having our first love child to bring along a lollipop or any candy once I would start to feel birthing pains so that the child will readily deliver itself. He said, it’s one way of motivating the baby to come out from the womb if it knows that a ‘candy’ is at hand. I laughed wryly.

I have known as a child how candies have been used to encourage us to attain or achieve something for ourselves. Even as we started our early education, we have to be driven to go to first grade, and it was always a struggle. It was the same when my own children went through their growth process when it took some struggle to make them attend school.


And school is where our wants became our needs, when there was little distinction between the two.

As I watched my little Liam Alistair receive his first set of recognition for having been “best in reading and most charming” among others, I could not hide my amusement at seeing him so proud of his achievement. I admit I felt proud myself, and couldn’t help but quipped that I once knew a little boy like him who was also proud of his honors, no matter how seemingly little it was.

Indeed, these recognitions seem insignificant for us adults now, but it means a lot to the young. And we can see why…

Didn’t we have public officials who were achievers in school, who had been `cum laude’ of sorts and reaped gold medals on each school commencement exercises but helplessly flopped in government service?

I am not against these recognitions but it is my hope that our educational system will raise the standards of our learning beyond heaping recognition upon a single achiever. We must remember that children, no matter how slow they learn in school have their special and unique ways.

Not many among our current educational institutions have opened up to this reality. Many, if now all of our schools have always been diploma mills that are only concerned about getting the nod of the Department of Education and Culture for their own purposes.

It is a pity, indeed.

Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on March 30, 2015.


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