Editorial: Sex video: It’s never worth it

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Friday, August 8, 2014

SO, a sex video is being accessed by many simply because they know the woman there. Sad. No, devastating.

There have been many sex scandals through many generations. There were the betamax queens before, and now, with the easy availability of video recorders and much easier availability of the medium to broadcast it from – the Internet – sex scandals hit closer to home. This time, it hit right inside the City Hall, where employees were said to have been feasting their eyes on the video uploaded in some porn websites of a woman they know very well: a co-worker.

For the generations who grew up wary of cameras, having ourselves videoed in such a private act is unthinkable. Many of us didn’t even want to have our pictures taken, fully-clothed at that. But that is not so in this age and time, where discernment of what shouldn’t we be caught doing in front of the cameras – whether moving or stills -- is pushed beyond the boundaries of decency by those who would easily claim that it’s freedom of expression or that it’s for their own private consumption.


As in past sex videos, whether it was still in betamax format or on the Internet, the condescending judgment is on the woman, the girl, the female.

There are many dynamics involved in the videoing of a sex act that we will never fully know. All that we can ever do is to repeatedly warn our children and our peers of what and what should never be allowed to be put in a form that can be taken out of their control.

Yes, it’s an unfair world, considering that the men who participated in such videos should be just as shamed, but that is not how the world works. The world has never been fair to women. While the men will only be judged by the size of their instrument the condescending note of disapproval and judgment will always be cast against the woman. The feminists among us may say we shouldn’t just shrug our shoulders and accept this. The mothers in us should be worried, very worried; because while we may raise our voices in collective protest against the shaming of women, one of our girls may become next the subject of disdain for yet another sex video.

The best we can do on the sides is to protect our girls, our women, simply because the world will not change because yet another sex video has created a scandal.

How do we protect what is ours? We can do this by imbibing in them the dignity of self and the strong will to stand their ground when faced with the prospect of being videoed or photographed doing private acts, to make them fully understand that private acts have to remain private, and to make sure that our boys grow up to be respectful of women.

For our part? Let’s not watch, as a show of respect to an already violated woman.

Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on August 09, 2014.


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