Thin line

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By Gingging Avellanosa-Valle

Bahin sang Bubay

Sunday, June 29, 2014

TIMES when we, women, thought we are confined in the four corners of our homes, waiting on the family's needs, looking out to respond to the children's requirements in school and the partner's wishes and necessities... That was then, and well, still true today, or is it?

Are women in our region really freer now than our mothers and ancestors before? I could still remember my very own Lola Olay when we were barely in our teens and she would tell us stories about how she used to be so dependent on our Lolo for everything she needed. Lola was really not so open about their love story, but during that time, I already considered her one of a kind because she already knew about women's rights somehow, in her own little way.

She knew that she could not always rely on our Lolo, although I have witnessed how Lola would take extra time to manually pound some rice and cook 'tinula' for Lolo that's really delicious. Funny how the memory seems so vivid in my mind still, but then I used to be my grandparents pet apo, and I used to ask Lola to let me have her "dukot" (crunchy rice) that I loved so much especially when her tasty soup was poured into it.


Her memory visited me again when I watched the play entitled "The Vagina Monologues" which was again played in Davao very recently. I thought in her innocence, Lola was really ahead of her time, almost regal in her ways, and I would always remember that her ancestors had lineage from the Mandaya tribe as this fact have made me proud to realize.

Through the years, I was always proud to think that my paternal ancestors have made me what I am today, strongly connected to my indigenous roots in spirit, and fortunate enough to be aware about it.

And though our generation have somehow forgotten that special connection that we had with our own self, there's a thin line that barely divide our connection to our glorious past to what we have now.

Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on June 30, 2014.


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