Listening with the heart

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By Gingging Avellanosa-Valle

Bahin sang Bubay

Saturday, February 1, 2014

FOR mothers, there is a simple formula to solving the bickering of children in the family and usually it does not involve a "stick and carrot" solution. Settling disputes does seem to be a woman's turf in the home, perhaps because she is well equipped with the faculties, patience and perseverance that is innate in her character as God's co-creator.

This is not to claim though that it’s only the women who can calm an inner turbulence, especially when it comes to dealing with her children. There are a lot of men too, who possess such qualities although no man can claim doing what Jesus did over the restless Sea of Galilee and over the "demons" who tried to test his patients during his time.

It must be noted though that the women who sat in the government panels could have made a lot of difference with their listening heart. And though I still have a lot of misgivings on the seemingly seamless process that the talks on Normalization turned out to be, I admit that I grudgingly admire the way it came out smoothly.


This feelings of doubt was seemingly corroborated with how things are today in some areas where some disgruntled members of the Bangsamoro could not contain their disagreement.

It is sad to note though that far from the expectations that these talks will result to the silencing of the guns, and for peace to eventually happen, it saddens me to be hearing about the carnage that is going on in some Maguindanao areas.

If some people believe that the problem with the "splinter group" will eventually fizzle out with the firming up of the Bangsamoro Basic Law (BBL), brushing aside the potential threat that it poses, I would not be hasty to do the same.

He latest updates on the bloodshed in Maguindanao involves thousands of families now driven out other abode because of the on-going bombings and fire fighting in the area.

These are realities that authorities in the on-going talks cannot just ignore, because the very heart of the matter may not be what it seems, as civilians are again offered for sacrifice in the name of the so-called peace agreements. We have to be clear on this, as things could get worse if it has not already reached an impasse.

The Framework Agreement on the Bangsamoro (FAB) matters a lot to all of us Mindanaoans, as we have hoped that this might be the solution to the long drawn conflict that has dragged the very existence of our people to the sidelights. But it has to be very carefully considered, meaning, everyone must be heard, as the truth has multiple sides to it.

First and foremost, the people tasked to work on the peace process must not rush to decisions that are unclear to different kinds of people, and must be discerning enough to listen intently to what is not being said. This would take a lot of patience indeed, but peace is worth all the effort, as this is not only for us, but more especially to the generation from whom we are borrowing the space we have now on this beautiful earth.

It is only right that we work on genuine peace today for the sake of our children’s children (our mga apo), and the generations to come.

Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on February 01, 2014.


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