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By Stella A. Estremera

Spider’s web

Saturday, January 11, 2014

THERE should always come a time when you sit down and ponder ... because there are things you may have taken for granted but are actually telling you that you are now empowered to do whatever it is you want.

It may sound new age-y, which I really do not want to sound. Call me the reluctant doer, or simply the lucky brat. There are many like us out there, you can be one of us. Just sit down awhile and ponder on your life.

A friend post in her Facebook wall: "I want to live my life without stress and worries. I don't need to be rich and famous, I just want to be happy."


I commented: "Wrong. It should be stress-free, worry-free, rich, famous, and happy. Why not?"

She replied, "Hirap din yan, iks..."

That's where everything usually ends. The moment we say mahirap.

Think it's mahirap, then it becomes mahirap.

It's a long process, however, to realize that the power is indeed within. We were programmed to think that we have to work hard. Very hard, by the sweat of our brows. Mag-uuma peg.

That was until I started bumming around and getting what I want anyway.

There must be something there.

I continued to bum around and continued to get what I want... hmmm... now for bigger wants.

For years, work on this Sunday would take me long hours overnight till the morning light. I didn't see anything wrong with that until work became so routine, I no longer needed the long hours overnight, and still the issue would be done in less than a day with hours to spare. Much later, I realized I could do it until before midnight Friday and take the whole Saturday off for some jaunt up the mountains or a dive.

As the new year rolled in, regular work became faster. I don't know how it started, it just became faster.

Ponder... ponder.

It pays to ponder on every change in your life so you can keep track of how you are developing and then improving on what seems to be developing for the better: Like being able to finish regular work an hour earlier, sometimes even two hours earlier, but I would opt to take a break and nap because the reporters can't keep up.

Those in the media know how precious each hour is and how difficult it is to squeeze in work just to save an hour. But recently, there wasn't even any effort. It simply squeezed itself in.

In my favorite quiet nights with dear friends who help me grow (Yes, kids, we continue to grow until we die) are discussions about how we change our mindsets and how we change our lives. Just think it and it will become. It has been said in many ways. "What the mind can conceive the body can achieve" is the most common way it is said.

My very close friends and I also share one trait. We are self-confessed bums. No one will believe us, but we all agree. We are.

We take the route of least resistance and effort, we don't suffer unnecessarily. We don't work hard. We simply do and let the universe take its course through us.

"What's your secret in writing?" I'd often been asked by young students wanting to learn. I always tell them to read. What I don't tell them because I might be accused of proselytizing is... I pray.

During days when the mind seems stuck, I simply stop working and pray, to let the universe take over and I will just type along. We are, after all, mere instruments. Let us be precious instruments. Suffering was never part of the equation. Of course, there was Job, but he's Job, we are not Job (remember, the biblical figure who lost everything?). Then of course, there is Jesus. He's Jesus, we are not Jesus (he died on the cross for us, hello!). In all forms and beliefs we have been told, "Seek and ye shall find. Ask and ye shall be given."

We were never told by the holy book (in whatever form and name it takes) to work hard for what you want; it only tells us in so many ways to work hard on ourselves. Ponder on that and tell me how it turns out.


Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on January 12, 2014.


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