At the risk of sounding like an old, broken record

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By Nina S. Custodio


Saturday, January 4, 2014

IT'S January 5. Didn't we just welcome the New Year? Time really flies fast. Didn't someone say that time flies when you're having fun? I say that time passes when there's so much to do and you have so much more left of other things you would like to do, too! I have spent the last few months of 2013 sketching out my game plan for 2014 and although my game strategy has since been launched, up and running, I am still discovering hidden agendas in my plan that I also need to address!

There is something about the New Year that really makes a person want to start out right. You always want to leave old troubles behind, or at least come up with a workable solution that you can do to solve the problem! It would be great to welcome the New Year with hope and a happy, positive attitude, believing that the coming year would be much, much better. Having learned your lessons well from the experiences of the past year, you are all pumped up and ready to square it off with 2014..

And then..there go the horoscopes that tell you that this year will be a challenge. Great.


I actually welcomed the New Year with the flu. Yup. Sick. And then my sister's puppy died which really broke my heart because I played with him a lot and I manually removed his ticks and fleas everyday because he was too young for all those anti-flea/tick products. And he was such a sweet puppy!!

The remaining days of last year had its down moments too, having a lost a 'Kuya' who went away unexpectedly..I have to admit left a feeling of melancholy that has lingered with me through the changing of years. Hmm. And well, there have been bad days. Yes, bad days during the first 5 days of the year! Can you believe that? The recent events made me feel discouraged and a bit depressed that maybe it is true, that my year will be a challenge! These past few days I find myself wondering what the heck is happening?

And why does it feel that I'm being picked on again? HMP. Other people may think that my trials are trivial and maybe they are, but to me, they are much more than that…simply because they are MY trials. Wouldn't anyone feel the same about their own experiences?

We all need to learn something about moving on despite unsettling feelings brought about by things we really do not want to experience. We all know that despite the fact that we do all we can to swing things in our favor, it cannot apply to everything in life. The degrees of disenchantment and disappointment may vary but truth of the matter is, it will be there. So, we need to learn to accept it as it is and forge on. Easier said than done yes, but bottom line is -- It can be done.

You must be wondering why I can keep on writing over and over about hope, trying, being positive and counting one's blessings Sunday after Sunday for I think about three years now. I, too, wonder the same thing. There are moments when I know I am sounding like an old record being repeatedly played. You must be wary of reading these things from me. I cannot claim to be an absolute expert about a my thing that I do -- I know there are better doctors, better writers, better painters and better grad students than I am.

What I can claim to be an absolute expert on is MY survival experiences in life and so I am often inclined to write about what works for me during my challenges--big or small, hoping that I would be able to help out one person find an alternative way at looking at his life.

It really is easier to be discouraged and stay that way, rather than pick ourselves up to move on. We wallow in self-pity and tend to linger there to give other people time to sympathize and empathize with us. We want that reassurance that our plights are being recognized by people who mean something to us.

I think it is natural but you know, there are times when you find yourself going through the motions alone and that realization makes you feel even more lonely. Sigh. I am all for going through the motions but, at some point we should realize that we need to snap out of it, right? There are ways.

So just to remind you (and myself) they are:

1. Look at the bright side -- You always have the choice to be happy; to stand up and move on. To be better. To live a more fulfilling life.

2. Count your blessings -- Big or small, when you feel downtrodden, they will make a difference. You know about that glimmer of hope? Recalling the blessings you've received are great sources!

3. Be positive -- I keep positive by doing the previous two, finding humor in all the hurt and by constantly telling myself these five things:

A. "This too, shall pass."
B. "He will not give me challenges I cannot handle."
C. "What doesn't kill me, makes me stronger."
D. "This is a life lesson that will someday save your
E. "God's wisdom is beyond human comprehension and so
even, if I don't understand why I need to go through this, I know He knows best and He has my back because He loves me."

When I was writing this article, I took a break to go online. This was one of my friend's status messages: "Trials can be God's road to triumph!"

We may all feel beaten at some point. There may be days when it seems like nothing is right. There will be hard times and worse to worst ones too. But, it is all up to us to choose how to see things. I fervently believe that I have managed to survive because of my choices and because I had faith that I believe in a Being who always has my back. We all have our own religions and we may believe in different Gods and Saviors but that shouldn't really matter right? In the end we stick to what we believe in and what we know…that would be more than enough to help us through!

Have a Happy Sunday Everyone!

Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on January 05, 2014.


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