Friends are forever-A A +A
Saturday, August 2, 2014
THIS experience called human life will never be complete without having experienced true “friendship”—a rather mild way of naming an extraordinary and enriching relationship.
Everyone has friendship stories—stories that define what makes each friend so special, or what makes a group of friends so fun to be around.
It’s “Friendship Day” today, and to honor all things BFF (best friends forever), please do or make something really special for a friend to show that person the valuable role he or she plays in your life. And maybe this simple act of kindness will go as far as fostering peace and harmony around the world. Here are a couple of “friendship” stories that show how unconditional love and understanding as well as unwavering support can do wonders to a friend.
The Friend You’ve Known Longer than Yourself: Jera and Mara literally bumped into each other when they were still in their mothers’ wombs. Both mothers were friends. Jera was born in June of 1989 and Mara in August that same year. At the age of two, they already began playing games with each other, and when both started prep school, they were enrolled in the same school. Since then, Jera and Mara were inseparable. When they graduated from high school, they took up the same course, nursing, and studied at the same medical school.
“It is not surprising that we should become the best of friends. We were always together, talking, laughing, eating. Mara and I have no sisters so this is probably one of the reasons we got really close. We need each other and we are family,” Jera said.
“My parents separated when I was only eight years old. So I needed someone to share my problems, a shoulder to cry on, and a friend who understands what I’m going through. We tell each other secrets that we cannot tell our mothers,” Mara confessed. “Yes. Mara and I are so different from each other and we do not share the same likes, yet we do not quarrel or argue,” Jera added. “That’s right. Even if she did not approve of my boyfriend at first—she was always picking on him—I just laughed it off,” Mara said. “I feel that our becoming BFF is destiny—it was meant to be,” Jera and Mara smilingly agreed. “There is something special about a person who feels like home. And it’s so nice and comforting to be around someone who has known you forever.”
The two friends gave birth to lovely baby girls. Mara in January of 2011 and Jera in June the same year. The two girls, named Jordyne and Chezka, naturally have started becoming friends. It will not be long before these two will also be calling each other BFF and carry on what their mothers have started.
A Friend Who Will Always Be Your Ally:
The story of a girl named Laurie and her friend Kent is not the usual or ordinary kind of friendship. In fact, it is of a different level and one that crosses the gender orientation boundaries. Still, they are real people and their friendship is as pure and sincere as it can get.
Laurie is 19 and Kent is a 17-year-old boy. Both are from Zamboanga del Sur, living in the same street in Pagadian City, the capital of the province. Then they came to Cebu to study.
To backtrack a bit, when Kent was about five years old, he started to show signs of being effeminate so that older boys would tease him and even bully him. This made Laurie really mad.
“So I would run out to the street with a stick and shoo them. But the boys would not mess with me because I was ‘a girl’ and their nanays would surely pinch them if they did,” Laurie recalls.
“Ate Laurie always came to my rescue—my knight in shining armor,” Kent said. Now he fondly calls Laurie “Kuya” and Laurie calls him “Nene.”
Then Laurie’s parents decided to send her to Cebu for college.
“The day Kuya left was the saddest moment in my life. I was so used to him being around, I did’t know I would be able to survive,” Kent confessed. “So every day I just kept on praying that when I graduate from high school I could also study here in Cebu. You see, there is no way my parents can afford it.”
This dream had a very positive effect on Kent. He focused his time and effort on his studies that he graduated at the top of his class, and got a scholarship.
A relative was impressed and offered to subsidize his allowance and other needs. So now he is in Cebu and is reunited with his Kuya and BFF.
Published in the Sun.Star Cebu newspaper on August 03, 2014.