I am a Woman. I Menstruate. Live With It.

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By Kathy Car

Plonky Talk

Friday, March 13, 2015

LAST month, I posted this on my Facebook timeline, dearies.

“me: men should menstruate.

john: excuse me. we are dealing with worse.


me: unsa?!?

john: babae nga ga menstruate.

From the husband who had to silently pick up play doh and popsicle sticks thrown on the floor by his PMS-ing wife, who had to take over bathing the 5-year-old daughter, and who will be accused of being a bad husband no matter what he does for the next three days.”

The post amused my friends and many liked it. What can I say? I am a woman. I menstruate. Live with it.

I am lucky though that I have a husband who is man enough to silently and patiently deal with the swinging hormone induced personality morphing, who could be counted on to buy my menstrual pads in case of emergencies and who once washed my blood stained panties because I was in too much menstrual pain to do it.

But some women are not as fortunate. I know a woman who has a husband who gets irritated with her when she has her periods. Why? Because he can’t “use” her – like she is a car or an appliance that refuses to function properly.

I once listened to a friend retelling how her husband shouted at her so early in the morning – for forgetting to throw her used (but neatly rolled and wrapped in toilet paper) sanitary pad. The “thing” was on top of the toilet bowl. There is a trashcan inside their bathroom. The husband chose to accost and shout at the wife.

Sometimes, I wonder why is it that when a man’s blood comes out of his body (bloody knuckles due to a fist fight or scraped knees from falling off a bike), it is often a badge of honor or courage.

But when a woman’s blood comes out of her each month, it is too often something to be ashamed of. Menstrual bloodstains would have us frantically covering or washing our stained clothes; some women actually apologize to people because they are having their periods.

And some men who have been married and have been living with their wives long enough for their daughters to menstruate still could not live serenely with the regular menstrual period of their wives. Why can’t some husbands live with menstrual periods the way fishermen live with the ebb and flow of the tide?

No matter what you do, menstruation and everything that goes with it will happen. And it will happen until the menopause of your wife. It is a part of her. It is part of being a woman. And if you love her, then all the more you should show that love when she is dealing with raging hormones, with the uncomfortable feeling of uncontrollable blood trickling out of her and with the menstrual pain.

Husbands, it usually lasts for only three days, five at most. That is less than a week in a month. Give your wife a break. After all, she deals with your dirty laundry and bottomless stomach and hangover for more times than that.

Cheers to being a woman. Cheers to Women’s Month!

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Published in the Sun.Star Cagayan de Oro newspaper on March 14, 2015.


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