Goodbye, Pearl…

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Friday, August 2, 2013

HER name reminds me of a pearl—expensive, rare, precious, and a like a shell that has to go through a lot of irritants before a pearl can be formed, she went through a lot of tests and difficulties in her life before the luster in her came out.

Perla Judith Somonod Daumar…she has made her final journey to the Abha Kingdom to join her Creator last Saturday, July 27, at 7:30 p.m., after more than a year of bout with breast cancer.

She was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer last year and was given only three months to live, but she has survived for more than a year still.


While the Baha’i Writings clearly say that death is something that we human beings should look forward to, still it was very hard not to cry, and be sad, knowing that I will not be able to see her physical presence anymore.

Pearl, as I addressed her, is an epitome of someone always in high spirit. Despite her own financial need, she was always ready to help those in a hand, be it financial or emotional.

She always found a way to mentor, to teach, to reach out to others and one could see her sincerity in everything she did. She was always on a look-out for opportunities to initiate activities that would highlight about peace and development.

Not even a cancer prevented her from organizing environment clean-up drive, or to celebrate World Peace or World Religion Day.

For many years, when I attend a vigil, it has become my silent practice not look at the coffin, especially when the dead was a close friend. It was my way of happily remembering the person as alive, and not as dead.

But at the Greenhills Funeral Parlor where Pearl was laid, a silent voice urged me to have a peek at Pearl, in her coffin.

What I saw was a serene, peaceful face, with her trademark—the sweet smile. How I wanted to hug her.

I was enveloped with joy knowing that she is now spared the physical pains and joins her loved ones in the other world.

Pearl…she has lived a fulfilling life…a devoted wife to husband Domingo (Totot) Daumar and a caring, loving mother to their three sons–Amir, Jamal, and Earl, who all have grown up as responsible individuals. It must be emotionally tough for all of them now that Pearl is gone.

In her early years, Pearl joined a movement that left scars on her being. She was even hoping that one day she would be able to get the financial reward for victims of atrocities during the Marcos Regime. That wish died with her, though.

One day, Pearl happily embraced the Baha’I Faith, a universal religion that teaches that God is One, that Religion is One, and that Mankind is One.

And from that day on, Pearl’s life made a happy turn-around, and she dedicated herself to serving the Faith, teaching people for the attainment of World Peace.

What she did had an impact on every one who she has touched in many ways.

As one of them (Kathleen Kate) said, “Nay (she was fondly called that endearment), I will never forget your smile, your laugh, your voice, or your touch. Your UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is beyond comparable. Thank you for being my Nanay for 8 years, and most of all, thank you for the love you have given to my kids. Go fly with the angels, Nanay, and may your spirit be free. You may be gone but you will always be remembered.”

Jonh Rhv also said, “Nay Perl, we will never forget your teaching about life and peace. You are always in my heart. I will miss you, Ma’am, my mentor and my Nanay for 5 years.”

Pearl, you have also touched my being in many ways, and I have learned a lot from your examples. I will surely miss you, but I am happy that someday, we will see each other in the other life.


Published in the Sun.Star Cagayan de Oro newspaper on August 02, 2013.


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