Parenting the digital generation

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By Rose Jessica Octaviano

A Sound Mind

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

BEING a parent is a blessing. It can also be challenging, especially with the generation today – the so-called “digital generation.”

The University of St. La Salle Guidance and Evaluation Center, the Parent Support Group and the Parent Teachers’ Council had organized the 18th Parenting Seminar last Saturday at the USLS coliseum, with Francis J. Kong as the guest speaker.

The title of his talk was “Parenting the Digital Generation.” It was attended by parents, administrators, teachers and students. Other schools and groups were also present.


Francis J. Kong is a popular speaker and entrepreneur of Business Matters/Funworks, Inc. He is also an author of several inspirational books.

Mr. Kong said that there are two important characteristics that parents should: (1) people skills, and (2) confidence that is built on the foundation of a Godly character.

He shared that the children today are the first generation that:
*does not need adults to get information
*can broadcast their every thought and emotion (on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram)
*is in social contact all the time yet often in isolation
*will learn from a portable device than a class
*uses phones instead of a watch, camera or calendar or a board game
*can travel anywhere in the world with budget fares
*are experts on hobbies (YouTube tutorials replacing manuals)
*makes money before getting their diploma
*can extend their services globally

He acknowledged that parents make mistakes. Parents should acknowledge it. Parents should give 90 percent positive encouragement to their children.

It is more important to leave your legacy than inheritance.

He ended his talk by mentioning the Five Love Languages of Love by Gary Chapman. It is said that people have different love languages: Talk (Words of Affirmation), Time (Quality Time), Things (Receiving Gifts), Tasks (Acts of Service), and Touch (Physical Touch).

Parents are encouraged to identify their children’s love language. For more information, here’s the website:

An open forum followed to give the audience a chance to ask questions. The questions were related to the five love languages. I asked about what aunts and uncles can do. He said that the role of an aunt or uncle is a blessed role, as both the parents and child, give their trust to these people. Thus it is an important note to the uncle or aunt to remember that they are not the parents.

Mr. Kong also encouraged parents to have family time, like attending Sunday Masses together and make it a Family Day. It’s also nice to eat dinner together on other days. Make this a quality time. Share about anything—school, friends, and family outings. No gadgets allowed. No scolding. Make it fun.

I truly enjoyed Francis Kong’s talk. I have listened to him several times. I agree with his points. Even though, I am not a parent, I learned a lot from him.

Published in the Sun.Star Bacolod newspaper on August 26, 2014.


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