You are powerful-A A +A
By Marc Lopez
Monday, August 4, 2014
IN WESTMINSTER Abbey in London, on the tomb of an Anglican Bishop, you will find this epitaph:
“As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country. But, it too, seemed immovable. As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it.
And now as I lie on my deathbed, I realize: If I had only changed myself first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even changed the world.”
Do you want to change your neighborhood or the city you are living in? Or better the situation at home or your workplace? Do you have this strong belief that if only this “one person” would change, everything would turn around for the better?
Well, you’re right, if that “one person” would change, your life would be much better. But that “one person” is not your city mayor, your spouse, or your neighbor. That “one person” is you.
According to Stephen Covey, if you choose to be highly proactive, and granted that you are smart, aware, and sensitive to the needs of others (I believe you are, that’s why you are reading this column), your life alone can replace 50 reactive people without initiative.
Being proactive means that as a human being you are responsible for your own life. You are literally response-able. Your life is the result of your decisions, not your conditions. Your city, your workplace, your family situation is a result of the choices you have made. That’s a lot of responsibility place on your shoulders. Which consequently means that is how influential you are. That is how powerful you are.
If you choose to take responsibility for the influence you have, instead of giving it to “everyone else” by blaming and complaining about them, you can change the results you see around you!
It is not what happens to you, but your response that hurts you. Eleanor Roosevelt, US first lady from 1933 to 1945, puts it plainly: “No one can hurt you without your consent.” That is what it means to be proactive!
As we continue to revisit the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, my hope is that we become more empowered to bring positive changes around us.
Last week we were reminded that lasting change begins from the inside out. This is what makes for real excellence. Before we can consistently keep our commitments with others, Covey advises that we practice keeping commitments with ourselves.
Commit to stop playing the blame-game or complaining-contest, and start being proactive. Be the very change you want to see at home, at work, in your community!
Choose to have a Magnificent Monday!
Published in the Sun.Star Bacolod newspaper on August 04, 2014.